Waiting for darkness, waiting for old age, waiting for death is definitely not the answer to life. Life is actually not a difficult problem to be solved, but discovering the mystery of life. It is to try to experience the taste of every day and try...
Waiting for darkness, waiting for old age, waiting for death is definitely not the answer to life. Life is actually not a difficult problem to be solved, but discovering the mystery of life. It is to try to experience the taste of every day and try to use your whole body and mind to feel something. Don’t sit stupidly and wait.
They spent twenty years waiting for death◎The 91st year of grandma Ito:
In the morning, she opened the screen outside the window. A Ms. Ito who lives in Chiaye Prefecture, Japan. She is 91 years old this year, without family or friends, and everyone she knows has passed away. The first thing to get up every morning: pull the screen style on the outside of the apartment window, which is a ceremony to welcome the morning.
In her early years, she also liked to watch the children near the apartment playing in the building under the building and the family who were drinking water in the community swimming pool. But time has been long, and no one has gathered to play at the lower floor, and the swimming pool has long been dried up. Family and old friends also passed away one by one………She was the last one, as if she was the person who was responsible for the lights.
In her neighborhood, a 67-year-old woman living under the building was discovered until the stinking smell of rotten smell dissipated after her death, but no one knew her; another 69-year-old man was even discovered three years after his death. During these three years, monthly rent and water and electricity expenses were automatically deducted from the balance of his bank account, and the relevant units did not notice the difference until the account's head number reached zero.
Ms. Ito wrote the "Reply of the World" on her 90th birthday, and the letter explained the arrangements for the subsequent events. Every day before going to bed, she would regularly close the "paper style" in front of the window, and when she woke up the next day, she would pull it open again. She entrusted the neighborhood to help pay attention to the opening and closing of the screen style. "If the screen wind is not opened one morning, it means I am dead."
◎Mother Chen, a 78-year-old man in Longshan, lived alone in Longshan,:
Before visiting the broiler flower club at home, Mother Chen, a 78-year-old man in Longshan, Taoyuan, always used large flower cloth to hold a large round table in the restaurant. It was a table that the family used to eat when they were eating. Now, only one person eats at home on weekdays. This table has been used for a long time, and the tabletop is filled with various items, tableware, medicine cans, etc. When someone wants to visit, she always hides the mist that covers the tabletop and is not visible to outsiders.
Many years ago, my wife and son passed away before and afterwards due to illness. The only daughter married to Taipei. She has her own small family. My daughter doesn't go home often, but she always calls home and talks about work and life situations. However, Mother Chen, who has lived alone for a long time, has no visitors and rarely goes out to interact with friends. The elderly are worried and a deep breath is emitting at home.
The social worker of Chang Geng Hospital's social service listed her as a guide and regularly explored and concerned. A social worker named Liu described that when he first visited, Mother Chen, who was in the door, had a slight hair and her living environment was still intact, but there were several paper boxes in the corner of the living room, and there were all full of hand-folded paper flowers, and even the paper flowers had spilled on the ground.
Mother Chen said, "I am the only one left now, and I have some preparations for the rest of my life. The flowers are folded, so there is no need to be troubled by the daughter." Sitting and chatting in the sofa, Mother Chen, who seemed to be relaxed, picked up the Fujin paper and started folding it.
◎Grandma Luo, 72 years old in Hubei:
The only son who wrote "Nothing is wrong today" in his daily journal works in Guangzhou. Her mother lives alone in her hometown in Hubei. She is already 72 years old. The neighbors call her "Grandma Luo". Guangzhou is really far away, and work cannot allow the son to go home to visit his mother as he wants, and he only goes home twice a year. The last time I went home was the Spring Festival holiday, and I left again three days ago.
After the son left for a month, the mother fell ill, and Grandma Rod held her back and died soon after. The son only found out about the death of his mother three days later. When Yan Ai went home to prepare for his mother's afterlife and sorted out the goods, he found a book of her own diary. Grandma Luo was a teacher before she retired and had always had the habit of writing diary. But after retirement, I spent my life alone, and I had time, but I had less and less things to write. The son read through his mother's diary and found that in the past year, the one he wrote the most is "Nothing is done today." The last page of the diary: "Nothing happened, I will die first."
Several characteristics of them waiting for death, "The Meaning of Olderness: The Year of Me and Those Older People", the English book name is Happiness Is A Choice you Make, and happiness is what you choose. The author's brief comment in the book: People who don't leave their doors, don't eat well, and don't take medicine will not live long. It is easy to understand that it is not to take or not to take medicine. For elderly people who are "not leaving the door", the title is "social isolation will kill people." Book discussion: The remaining time for older people is limited, and they conduct "a certain time plan" and no longer care about the remaining "time" that makes them tired or needless to find. They will fill in the remaining "time" with supporters.
Older people no longer establish new relationships, but rely more on their existing international relationships. The problem is that when the people who support themselves and existing relationships break, emotional communication stops, and life enters the "numbness, feelingless and powerless" stage, "not leaving the door" becomes a sign and a problem. This is a life-and-death problem, and it is also a social problem, saying "they are waiting for death."
Haruki Murakami said in "If Our Language Is Whiskey": "At the end of the year, the year is long, but it is worth waiting for." For those who "don't leave the door", they are obviously lonely and there is no one worth waiting for. The year is full of torment.. It is very important to have a way to do it yourself, or to find help to make your life "stubborn and far-reaching" again!
Waiting for darkness, waiting for old age, waiting for death, is definitely not the answer to life. Life is actually not a difficult problem to be solved, but discovering the mystery of life. It is to try to experience the taste of every day and try to use your whole body and mind to feel something. Don’t sit stupidly and wait. Do what you really like, and then "Toast every sunny day", just do it.
Book introduction
Toast Xiyang: The wisdom of life in late autumn
Book notes: Wang Haoyi
Publisher: Youlu Culture
Publishing Date: 2020/12/04
Author introduction
Wang Haoyi: I learn mathematics, I like architecture, and I am obsessed with history. For the input of knowledge, like the well diggers of oil wells, they go deep into the bottom of the bottom after diamonds. The output of words is like a mathematician's direct thinking, habitually finding new relationships with irrelevant things.
The complication-based writing workers are also middle-aged; when writing ancient plots, they always wipe away the historical marks and visit the ancients' styles and cultural codes; when writing ingredients and food, they like to carry chopsticks, and use their stomachs to study geography and history classes; when writing city trips, they always start with summer melons and autumn fruits in small farms in the vegetable market , record ancient streets and literary shops; write precious old trees often have a different perspective and explore the thoughts of the former tree people; write historical notes to compare the wisdom of various heroes with the psychological situation of each hexagram in "Yi Dao"; write psychological philosophy, and the lonely thoughts always begin to fly after a person's trip.
