"The pain of a wife is deeply rooted in her heart." After reading her father s diary, I m not married anymore

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Some parents are worried day and night because their children have never been married. They always worry that they will not see their children getting married in their lifetime and cannot witness their children's happiness.

Some children are worried day and night because of their hardships in their parents' later years, and they always worry that they will leave the regret that they want to raise their children but don't wait for &rdquo.

When life involves these problems, it sometimes makes people feel helpless. Parents are worried about their children's marriage. Many times, they are poor but unable to achieve their strength. Children worry about their parents' later life. Many times, they are poor but lack strength, and they are incompetent in their own body, so they dare not give up everything and accompany their parents.

Many regrets in life are often formed in this helpless state. Although many people can think of the result as regret, they still leave regrets because they are too busy. Especially when it comes to parenting, I can only say that if you can do more, do more, and if you can spend more time, you can spend more time. After all, once your parents die, you will not be able to replenish them.

Yesterday we had an article about the old age plan of a 45-year-old woman, and also about a case of a woman divorced to give her mother a long time. Compared with these two cases, although they will lose what ordinary people have, at least they will not leave behind the regrets mentioned above.

The following man's plan for his later years is also different from that of ordinary people. Let's take a look at what he has experienced and what made him decide "not to marry".

Teacher Dong Lin:

Your article can always make me co-bear and always provide me with some new ideas. Thank you very much. Especially after reading your article yesterday, I relaxed because I realized that I was not the only one in this world who was fighting alone on the road, although I said I should not compare with others, but knowing that there are similar types has made me feel much more at ease.

The reason why I decided not to get married is related to my experience and to my original family, because I am a single family.

My mother died in high school when she left the bus. After that, everyone in our family fell into grief and their quality of life was urgently reversed. Because she had no mother's family, she lost her backbone and left her father and our siblings. No one knew what to do in the future.

My father heard the "good-hearted person" complaint and was in a hurry to go to the hospital and wanted to remarry, but my sister and I unanimously opposed it.

Actually, when we look back, there is no reason to object, because we have different identities from our father. The father decided not to remarry for ourselves, but for us siblings, to make us warm the family.

However, my sister and I felt sorry for my mother at that time. What we told our father was, "Dad, my mother passed away, you can't remarry!" ”

When I heard my sister and I say this, my dad gave up the idea of ​​remarrying and continued until now.

Although my father was prevented from remarrying, the face of the situation still has to be met, and we still don’t know what to do.

, or maybe it was because of the suppressed family environment that my sister went out to work. I was in school at that time, so the only one father was left in the family.

I was young at that time, and I was deeply beaten by my mother's death, so I didn't understand my father's feelings. Looking back now, I really don’t deserve it. I should be with my father for more.

My father also went out to work after that. In other words, our family of three fell apart from that time. Our family of three reunited only every year during the New Year. Other times, they went their separate ways. My contact with my sister and father sometimes relies on phone calls and sometimes write letters.

I have received several letters from my father, and he always encouraged me in the letter, so that I should not give up and make me sure to go to college. And I have never cared about him.

This kind of separation life has not changed until now, except for my sister who is married. It was not until last year when I came home during the Chinese New Year that I sat down and chatted with my father that I realized that my father was old, old, and had already entered his old age.

I suddenly woke up. With so many things, many things have gradually changed. In addition to our respective ages, my relationship with my father can also clearly feel separated and strange.

These questions I realized have made me feel very uncomfortable. Later, when I was rummaging through the boxes and looking for something I had when I was a child, I found that my father wrote a diary more than ten years ago, which made my heart cut.

​The title of the father's diary is: “The pain of a wife is deeply engraved in her heart. ”Because I am also the elder of my mother's death, I feel all the words my father said in that diary. My biggest feeling is: I regret that I stopped my father from remarrying with my sister.

When I think of my father who is over 60 years old is still wandering, I feel very sad. So, I made two cruel decisions:

First, my son is no longer married, at least when my father is alive, I will not get married. I will use my longer time to accompany my father in his limited life. I cannot make him have no support, can he have a bright future, can he have only pain in his heart.

Second, I want to buy a house in my hometown, then go back to my hometown to work, take my father over and live with me, and then I made a decision.

Although my father opposed me to do this, I really did it, and I could tell that he was very moved.

Let's move! Let’s be more touching! I want to replenish all the things I owe my father, and as long as he can live well, I will feel at ease. I have no regrets in my life to be able to accompany him until I grow old!

As long as you live with intention, no matter how you live, it will be right!

I appreciate and like the decisions made by the man above and his understanding of life. Maybe someone will express different opinions, but I just want to say that everything he does is intentional.

A person lives for a lifetime, as long as he lives with intention, no matter how he lives, it is right! What I fear most is that I have no direction, no goals, no intention, no value, just live a life in a daze.

does not mean that his family situation must be done like this, and he must make sacrifices by himself. This is entirely based on his personal understanding and perception of life. In fact, it doesn’t matter how outsiders think of it. What matters is how you view it yourself and how you treat your life.

I have a friend who had a very similar experience to that man. He also made a decision not to marry because he had witnessed the pain of his father's experience in his life, and he was afraid that he would also embark on this path. In his words, "If you don't get together, there is nothing different." If I don’t get married, my divorce or my wife has nothing to do with me. Those are heavy responsibilities that I can’t bear. Even if someone says I am a coward, I have my own reasons. ”

The lives and families of other people, whether they are similar to the man above, or are worse or better than his, I hope everyone can take some time to think about the meaning of life and family. We can also reflect on the regrets and helplessness we mentioned when we opened our heads. Only in the process of reflection can you understand what to do and what not to do. Take the &ldquo: "The child wants to grow up but he doesn't want to live with him" such regrets, there is really no need to regret it before regretting. While your parents are alive now, if you don't want to leave regrets, think about it for a moment, you should know what to do and what to do.

How long does it take for you to accompany your parents now? Call your parents!

This article is reproduced from Donglin Xiting Public Number