At 40, confusing. Should middle-aged people be lost?

For you, who is forty, the most important thing now is to stop first and observe your heart. Feeling confused is a time to stop and view life messages, a time to rethink the future life and strengthen inner strength.

Stop and try to see yourself

Even if you don't have friends who are close to each other, or your family who thinks about you, it's your forties. Because you have one person who already knows you, and who knows how to take care of you, is your forty-year-old self. The people who have never left you for the past forty years are with you. At this time, if you cannot stop and observe yourself, you will only feel even more confused about the series of questions in the future.

Most of the people in their forties lived a stable life and would not feel uneasy about the future. As long as you follow the steps and follow the plan, you can enter a good company; after retirement, you can live a comfortable life. As long as you study hard at a young age, get into a good school, or even have a better family background, you can make good progress after studying abroad.

But now, even if this young man is admitted to a good school or goes abroad, he is likely to still encounter the dilemma of "staying for a long time" and is even more confused about his future career planning. Even when I was forty, my job was still unstable and I was even forced to leave. There were many people who had to switch to the runway to find a job. In this uncertain era, the chaos in the heart of the forty is not as bad as the twenty. There are more and more people who are single and unmarried, and even married people cannot find peace in their lives.

Generations: Don't have resentment

Generations make the gaps more and more serious. There are many resentments between each other and you will want to rebel against each other's ideas. But to resolve each other's hearts, only mutual understanding and tolerance can be achieved. No matter which era, it has its pain and does not need to be compared. Comparison will only bring harm. But the times difference cannot be regarded as an excuse to shift focus or evade responsibility.

Don't deliberately escape from anxiety in your heart, or push your responsibilities to others and society, it will make yourself immersed in anger and fear and be unable to extricate yourself.

Kim Sung-min, born in 1973, is a well-known Korean host. He has entered the acting circle since he was over 20 years old. His income is neither fixed nor stable. Only a small number of stars can make a fortune, but he still worked hard in this operation until he was forty years old that he finally showed his head in the acting circle.

Arranging the air file year and finding the direction again

Because the times have changed, some people only find their own strength after they are forty years old. I knew a woman in her forties who had been fighting in a large company for nearly fifteen years. One day, she suddenly began to think, "Why am I living?", so she decided to submit her and arrange a "GAP YEAR" for herself.

The so-called "empty year" is usually a year when a young man in his twenties or thirties, he temporarily interrupts his studies or career in order to explore himself and takes advantage of his youth to recharge his energy. However, she decided to do this after she entered her forty years old. I admire her determination and action very much, and she can resolutely leave the big company that everyone calls her and bravely pursue her second life. Not everyone has such courage.

Over the past fifteen years, she has worked harder than anyone else. In large companies with serious gender discrimination, in order to perform better than their male colleagues, they work overtime almost every day, even spend their sleep time, and bet on their work. But ten years later, she suddenly realized that her life seemed to be only work left, and she lost her soul after selling her life for the company, so she suffered from depression. After suffering from depression, she decided to find another new way out for her life.

She took a break for a while, and after returning to her physical and mental state, she began to learn about the furniture artwork that she had always been interested in, and then opened a studio. Although her income is much less than before, she feels that she is the happiest life now.

After entering middle age, even if you are confused, it doesn’t matter. Just look for a new direction like this. Falling into uneasiness and anxiety will only make yourself more confused. Consider confusion as the turning point of life, and after the turning point, it will be a new and happy life.

Forty years old. The spiritual path

Life is half over. Recording your life in words will make us realize many things. Divide life into several stages, look at what has happened in the past, and calmly look at it and reflect. These experiences will become wisdom in future life, and may even develop new plans.

If you don't know how to write, you can write according to the following sentences.

Why did I choose this university in my adolescence (in college or after school)? Why choose this department? Do you think you are studying in the department? Do you like university life? If so, what is the reason? If not, why? Do you have any special good friends at college? Have you talked about love? What kind of person is it? Is love happy? Have you met someone who wants to be together? Have you failed? Why is it lost? How do you feel after the loss? What kind of job do you want to find after leaving the society? Are you satisfied with your career life? If you are not satisfied, what is the reason? Do you want to leave or have you already left? Are you more happy after leaving the job?

When I entered middle age, do I feel regretful that I have not grasped my life well? Are you married? How about marriage life? If your marriage is happy, what is the slogan? If you think your marriage is unhappy, why? What are your thoughts about your partner? Have children? What is the relationship with children? What do you think marriage affects you? If you are not married yet, what is the reason for not getting married? How do you feel about being unmarried? Like what you are doing now? What is the reason for liking it? If you don't like it, what do you want to do? Already preparing for retirement? What preparations have been made? Will you feel uneasy about the future? Why?

After writing, if you feel that you have no regrets about your life at this time, please praise yourself and encourage yourself as much as possible. If you have any regrets, you can see what methods can be supplemented and write down the feasible methods. Every moment I have experienced in the past is full of meaning and will make myself stronger and braver. Maybe you have made many mistakes and failed countless times, but these experiences are very important for your current life or for your future life.